For so long, our lives have been driven by the desire to seek to please others and gain their acceptance. Unfortunately, that lifestyle causes us to lose sight of our true identity (who God created us to be).
The fruit of not knowing who we are is joylessness, depression, lack of fulfillment in our jobs and relationships and ultimately an overall unhappy life!
This issue often starts in childhood. With good intentions, our parents do everything they can to have us become the people they want us to be. They reward behaviors that fit their expectations and punish every other behavior that doesn’t please them.
This sets the pattern of burying the real us early in life. We become people-pleasers, denying the real person inside …. living the “big lie”. We eventually develop personalities and behaviors that aren’t the ones God originally created us with. We have multi personalities, changing them according to the type of people we’re with and how important their acceptance is to us.
As Christians, we’re told to “put off the old man and put on the new” but we put off the wrong person! How can God transform the real you into the one He wants if you don’t know who the real you is? The real you has been buried, lived life as someone else and missed out on being transformed into the likeness and image of Jesus.
That’s why we deal with chaos in our inner world such as fear, anger, jealousy, inferiority, to name a few. We hide and deny that world even exists inside us. But every now and then life’s issues make our inner world erupt and the chaos gets revealed (to our embarrassment).
Of course, as good Christians, we cover it up with religious activities such as joining the choir, becoming a church Elder, attending many church services, etc. If church activities can’t cover it up, we blame others or our circumstances for our discomfort and emotional instabilities.
Some of us are very good at covering up the instabilities of our inner world. But, we pay a price for living the big lie because not knowing who we really are is a tremendous loss.
Like Lazarus, who Jesus raised from the dead, we were called out the grave when we came into a saving knowledge of Jesus. But, we’re still bound by our grave clothes….free, but in the bondage of living the big lie. Our inner world’s not transformed yet into what God originally created us to be.
God wants to set us free from slavery to Satan and take our grave clothes off, so we can live for Him. We’re free when we identify with the person God wants us to be, transformed inside to be like Him…. so we can live like Him…. and do what He does.
Here is how the Holy Spirit can lead you on this journey of discovering who you are:
- Don’t deny your feelings; discover the roots to why you feel these emotions. Invite Jesus into your inner world to transform you. Your feelings reveal the hurt, the wounds and the many times you’ve buried the true you. The real you has been exchanged for the person everyone wants you to be.
- Let God reveal His love for the real you. You’ve often crucified the real you instead of recognizing how valuable you are to God. Remember, the first commandment is to love God with all our hearts and then love our selves. Ask the Holy Spirit to help in this. Forgive yourself for believing Satan’s lies concerning your true value.
- Cultivate lost and forgotten dreams and passions that were buried in your heart, yet they’ve always been there. Don’t deny them any longer and be strong enough to say no to things you used to say yes to. People-pleasing eventually disappears when you discover and consistently live life as the real you.
In conclusion, the first step to a successful Christian life is to discover the real you. But, it doesn’t end there because secondly; God wants the real you to be transformed into a mature Christian.
Aren’t you tired of living the big lie? Start the journey of discovering the real you today…..you won’t be disappointed!
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